When we suffer, society and people tend to think that suffering is all there is at that moment, and happiness belongs to some other place or time. Humans often ask, ‘Why do I have to suffer?’ Thinking we must be able to have a life cycle without any suffering is as deluded as thinking we must be able to have a left side without a right side. The similar is true of thinking we have a life in which no happiness whatsoever is to be found. If the left says, ‘Right, you supposed to go away. I don’t need you. I only need the left’—that’s nonsense because then the left would have to stop existing as well. If there’s no left, then there’s no right. Where there is no suffering, there is no happiness either, and vice versa.
If we can grasp to see and skillfully engage with both the presence of suffering and the presence of happiness, we will go in the direction of enjoying more life. Every day we go a little farther in that inclination, and eventually, we realize that happiness and suffering are not two different things.
Jolt yourself out of your usual routine. Sometimes suffering comes about as we’ve ground ourselves down into a rut. We preoccupy with our loss and can’t seem to think of anything else.
At times like these, Live in now supports giving our psyche and soul a jumpstart by doing something we wouldn’t usually do.
Maybe it’s time to actually take that trip to Greece that you’ve dreamed of. Maybe it’s time to register for that meditation class that you’ve been considering. Maybe it’s time to say a pretty word to a stranger you pass on the sidewalk.
Whatever it is that may pull you out of your rut, give it an attempt and see how it changes the nature of your suffering into happiness.
Soften someone else’s suffering. When we experience pain, it’s easy to isolate ourselves and have faith that no one has it worse than we do.
While whatever pain you are experiencing is unique to you, it helps to remember that all human beings share the capacity for happiness and suffering. Having contact with someone else who is also having a tough time and providing them with simple kindness can be an awesome antidote to our own suffering. Offer some simple kindness to that person. And watch what happens inside of you.
Remember your basic goodness. “Basic goodness” is a great concept that comes from tradition. It reminds us that no matter how negative or chaotic the circumstances of our life, there is a ground of basic goodness in ourselves and in the universe that we can count on.
If we are keen to take an unbiased look, we will explore that, in spite of all our issues and confusion, all our psychological and emotional ups and downs, there is something basically happiness about our existence as a human.
When you are in the midst of deep pain, permit yourself to touch back into the truth—or at least the possibility of truth. You can do this in very plain ways. Take a walk outside and appreciate the warmth of the sun on your face. Drink a sip of fresh, cool water.
Each of these sufferings can help to remind you that in a multitude of manners, the universe is supporting you. This basic truth is deeply reassuring and deeply healing.
Finally, it’s awesome to remember that while there is self-generated suffering, there is also self-generated happiness. May you generate some for yourself at present!
Happiness is possible right now, today—but happiness cannot there be without suffering. Some individuals think that in order to be happy they must ignore all suffering, and so they are constantly worrying, constantly vigilant. They end up sacrificing all their joy, spontaneity, and freedom. This isn’t correct. If you can identify and accept your pain without running away from it, trending in motivation will explore that although pain is there, happiness can also be there at the same time frame.
Happiness cannot be developed in quiet and ease. Only through experience of suffering and trial can the soul be successfully achieved, strengthened, and ambition inspired.
The most beautiful human we have known are those who have known defeat, known loss, known to suffer, known struggle, and have explored their way out of those depths.
In one extraordinary book, someone teaches us how to discover happiness by getting past suffering. He shows us how the only path to do this is by transforming and acknowledging suffering, not running away from it. He shares with us the practices of deep concentration, stopping, and mindful breathing that will enable us to develop the energy of mindfulness within our daily lives; using that energy, we can embrace suffering and pain, calm them down, instantly bringing us a measure of happiness and a transparent mind.