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How to Stop Thinking that Accepting Help is a Sign of Weakness

It can be especially tough for those of us who faith that seeking help undermines our independence and our potential to cope.

Overcome Prideful or Flawed Thinking
Decide if you are fretted about what others will think.
 Motivational blogs leads to many great reasons that probably be influencing your reluctance to seek help from others. One is your concern about how others view you. Some of the reasons may be applicable to you.

· You may feel that you don't want help, or that any human offering support is threatening your independence. For example, maybe you have had to look out for yourself since an earlier age due to neglectful parents. Now, you faith suddenly accepting support from others makes you weak.

· Perhaps, it was instilled in you that an adult or someone your age should take responsibility for himself. As a result, you faith it is socially false to ask (or to be a burden) family and friends for assistance.

· You probably battle with fears of rejection or have a tendency towards perfectionism. Both motivations do cause you to ignore accepting support for fear of failing or being seen as a failure.

· If you're a professional or business owner, you may be worried that wanted help can demonstrate a absence of professionalism. Consequently, you probably feel that someone not handling his own stuff is incompetent or inferior.

Move beyond your need for outside approval. Faith that others will judge you or reject you may be interfering with your potential to seek help when you require it. Grasp to not rejections inflicted or internalize judgments on you by others. Fight approval-seeking with self-acceptance.

· Become more accepting of yourself by recognizing your strengths and celebrating them. When you are aware of your positive characteristics, judgment or rejection from others impacts you less.

· Write a list of your strongest traits and abilities. Reflect on this list when you are doubtful of your capabilities or when you are worried about gaining approval from others.

Hug your fear of vulnerability goodbye. Not needing to show vulnerability does cause you to refrain from asking for support. When you think about it, the emotional exposure needed to ask another for help can be pretty uncomfortable. However, it is not necessarily a false thing. In fact, the study declares that vulnerability is at the "root" of "meaningful human experience.

Acknowledge how you are reinforcing an unrealistic paragon. Sometimes, there are reinforcing or conflicting societal ideals that can make it seem like a weakness to require help. These "ideals" unfortunately keep many humans from asking for help, so they remain struggling and isolated. For example:

· There is a common theme running through games, movies, and even books, that a hero will gain the high glory if she or he faces impossible issues and magically overcomes them on her or his own. Even historical events have been rewritten to put up this unrealistic view of the amazing prowess of leaders throughout time.

· The issue with this viewpoint is that most leaders and heroes have a lot of supporters and helpers unacknowledged in the wings. As such, comparing yourself with unrealistic portrayals of heroes or leaders will only provide you unhappiness.

· Some humans have a tendency to think that you must be able to cope alone or manage without support. Many of us see the globe as it "must be" as per very unrealistic standards, as opposed to seeing the globe as it actually "is". This isn't good thinking in the long term. Quite often this way is reinforced by pressure or family outlook.

Realize the damage you are causing yourself and others. By making yourself aloof from other humans, you are constructing an invisible barrier around yourself that wards off the potential for new friendships and relationships.

· It can be deceptive to think that you can offer help and advice but never want to accept it in return. This ultimately just leads to despair and loneliness as it only offers to isolate you from others.

· Consider reciprocity, think about times you've supported others with your own specialties which can provide you confidence in asking others for support or advice in their zones of expertise.

Don't be fooled by your own expertise. Being trained in one zone of expertise does not provide you with immunity from continuing to seek support from others within that similar field or from other individuals in other fields. Your practical skills, spirituality, research, and advice will be all the better to ask for help from others, as well as gaining access to new ideas and methods.

Learn to Ask for Help
Don't second-guess yourself.
 It is possible to begin finding pathways to let others help you.  One of the great ways of doing this is to follow your brain. The minute you have a conscious thought that you are absorbing something you cannot alone handle, seek out help. Don't take the time to discuss yourself out it. Remember to make a note of the solution you get for your issue. This will support you when you face the same situation again

· When the thought crosses your head that you could do with help sorting out an issue - carrying a heavy box, making lunch, working out a work dilemma, etc. - act on it. Decide who you will ask, phrase the request in your mind, and go and ask for support.

Accept that some humans do act out of the kindness of their hearts. If another individual is being kind in offering help, accepting it at face value is the foremost step. Yes, there are humans with bad intentions, but there are also those who need to do good for others. Look for those individuals around the globe and stop concentrating on the negative.

· Seek out the goodness in others and restore your faith in humanity. An easy manner to do this is by volunteering. Watching others give of themselves selflessly to support those who are pretty less fortunate is an awesome manner to recognize the good in humans. Volunteering do help you to observe how humans depend on one another within a society, and how all chunks must work together to function as a whole structure.

Be choosy about who you ask for help. Select wisely and carefully. Ignore people who make you feel like a lesser human in any manner. Find individuals you really faith to try out asking for help first. This will permit you to open up bit by bit, and not be exposed to someone who might not do the right thing by you, or who might purposely make you feel dull for asking.

Understand the natural dynamic of giving and take. Think about how you view humans who ask you for help—do you judge them?  If you keep cutting yourself off from opening up to others, you risk not sharing your abilities, skills, and talents with others in need of help. In helping another human, you cease to concentrate on yourself. And when you cease to concentrate on yourself, it is far easy to accept support back from another. In giving of yourself (your time, your listening ear, your care, your love, etc.), you are supporting another learning more about yourself, being able to love for you, and having faith that you will reciprocate the attention that they bestow upon you.

Learn to have faith in others. In order to receive support, you want to faith in the other individual and to faith that you're worthy of help (self-respect). This might be the toughest chunk but it is absolutely vital. Wholesome, accepting, self-assured faith is capable of absorbing rejection, attracting genuine support, and will easily detect the occasional exploitative individual. Select to trust needs that you:

· modify your expectations - remember that humans are only human and they have both bad and good traits (so do you!)

· recognize that rejection, disappointment, fear, and abandonment are possible in all relationships

· Explore yourself worthy and capable of making nice decisions and being around decent humans.

Beware of undermining your issues.  It can be all too easier to dismiss the depth or worth of your own issues. There is no hierarchy of scale of emotional pain or problems. A problem is a problem, whatever its difficulty or ease. The litmus test is how much it is impacting you negatively and preventing you from moving forward. Belittling your issues as not worthy of being solved only serves to make it, even more, challenging to cope with.

Show self-compassion. When you view yourself negatively for receiving support, you isolate yourself from the rest of humanity. You can counteract this by practicing self-compassion, which denotes treating yourself just as you would a dear buddy.

Let go of the issues that no one can fix. There lies the great strength of all as there is a huge difference between "burying" issues in comparison to accepting, forgiving, and letting go. If you want help to do that, really don't be scared to ask for it. 

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