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How to Stop Crushing On Someone You See Everyday

We’ve all experienced the friction of trying to get over a crush. It’s tough enough when you only have to see them occasionally, but the University of Life can feel pretty impossible when you run into them every day in class or at work.

Make a note of their imperfections. 
Even your "ideal" crush is not flawless.
 We tend to concentrate on the positives of our crush, like their hilarious jokes or their cute smile. Try brainstorming a note of their flaws. You’ll see that your perception of them wasn’t completely way grounded in reality, and their magic over you will begin to fade. Involve anything you can think of, like:

· Their buddies are obnoxious

· They are already in a relationship

· They obsess over a Television show you don’t like

Get off of social media.
Your crush’s posts are a highlight reel of what makes them awesome.
 It’s tempting to keep looking at their images, but your emotions won’t pass if you keep seeing them at their most interesting and photogenic. Set time limits to your social apps to cut down on scrolling, or unfollow your crush to ignore an unexpected post. You already have to see this human every day, so think of your social media as a safe space from them. You’ll only lengthen your attraction if you keep scrolling past their face outside of work.

Pretend your crush is just an acquaintance. 
This outlook makes your crush seem less special.
 You can still be kind and polite to them, but you have no inspiration to interact with them outside of basic manners. With time, this will prevent your emotions from transforming into resentment or anger towards the person. If you identify your crush too well for this trick, try pretending they’re someone else near to you. How would you react if it was a sibling or friend that waved at you from across the classmate? A coworker? A street?

Limit contact with your crush as much as you can. 
Proximity is a major factor in developing emotions for someone.
 Sit in a different office space or desk to put them at a good distance. Skip any office or parties' happy hours where you understand they’ll be, and explore new bars, hangout spots, or coffee shops if you identify they’re a regular at your old haunts.

· If you’ve been intimate with your crush before, keep your relationship fully platonic going forward. More sensual encounters will make it tougher to get over your emotions and move on.

· Make your home a safe space and get rid of any photos, gifts, or other objects that remind you too much of a human.

Say you “like” the individual instead of “love.”
The manner we talk about someone influences our emotions about them.
 If you say you "love" someone, it raises the stakes if your crush doesn’t love you back. Instead, just say "like." It takes the pressure off and makes your crush pretty less special compared to everyone else. Use "like" when you talk to buds about your crush:

· "I like spending a good time with him.

· "I like the way she smiles."

· "I like when I bump into him in the corridor."

Talk about your crush with friends or family. 
Talking about something out loud supports you understand your emotions about it.
 Tell your best buddy or a trusted family member what you love about the person, how angry or sad you feel, or all the milestones or future dates you pictured. Get it all out of your system so you can move on.

· Talking about your issues with friends and family in a manner to let them know what’s happening in your life and that you might want some extra support while you work through this. It’s alright to apply your support system and ask for help!

· Talk about your crush will support normalizing your emotions. If you keep it all inside, you might feel embarrassed about how you feel and it will take longer to heal.

Journal about your emotions. 
Journaling pushes you to be present at the moment.
 It’s a time for you to concentrate on yourself, organize your thoughts, and gain some clarity about your emotions. Journaling can reduce decluttering, clear your brain, and help letting go negative thought patterns, even if it’s just a simple break from daydreaming about your crush. You don’t need to keep the journal entry forever. Tear the page out and throw it away afterward if you don’t need a permanent record of your most secret thought shell.

Focus on innovative hobbies and self-care.

A new hobby is an exciting manner to distract yourself. Keep busy and explore activities you excel at and make you feel confident and empowered. It could be running 10Ks, cross-stitching, or trying the fresh recipe from Bon Appétit. The aim is to remind yourself that there is plenty of other fish in the pond, but you are the only you. Hobbies are just one form of self-care. Take naps, binge your favorite TV serial, do yoga, or do whatever other activities make you feel awesome, refreshed, and whole while you process your emotions.

Substitute a new thought pattern when your crush is on your mind. 
You don’t have to try to delete them entirely.
 Just change the course of your thinking to stop fantasizing about what could have been or swinging on a relationship that isn’t going to surface. This support you heal and moving on faster. Here are certain examples of how to shift your train of thought:

Look at yourself from their outlook. 
You probably wouldn’t think less of someone for liking you.
 You may not have those romantic emotions, but that doesn’t denote you think they’re undateable or weird. Show yourself certain self-compassion and remember that you’re not defective as they don’t reciprocate your emotions. Try looking at your interactions through their lens too. To you, a quick "hi" might be heart-stopping. To them, it’s just a sweet gesture. Try to operate on their level and cool your thinking and actions to match up with the relationship reality.

Meet new people. 
Open yourself to the possibility of having emotions for someone else.
 Putting yourself out there can provide you with some romantic optimism while you work through hard emotions. The worst-case scenario is that you end up with a new buddy or acquaintance and briefly distract yourself from spiraling over your crush. There’s no need to dive into a new relationship right away to get over your crush. It’s enough to just discover what’s out there.

Set limits on how much you think and discuss your crush. 
Overtalking about them can prolong your emotions of pain and sadness.
 If you feel yourself obsessing, try to distract yourself with your favorite hobbies or take a trip with family or friends. It can be pretty healing to do something you enjoy with the individuals who do care about you. Shift your energy towards accepting the circumstance for what it really is and acknowledge, that what I am looking for is not going to occur with this person. You will probably still feel blue for a time, but this acceptance will let you grieve the lost possibility and then move on with the whole thing.

Remember your life outside of your crush.
You have friends, interests, goals, hobbies, and family.
 Those things are still yours with or without your crush, and they must not replace everything that’s already in your life. If you focus so much on your crush that you neglect other things that are significant to you, it’s time to accept that it isn’t going to really work out and move on.

Acknowledge that these emotions are temporary.
Even the most negative emotions
 don’t last forever. It’s natural to take a while to bounce back, and these emotions might be prolonged just as you have to see them frequently. Hold on to the fact that you will feel good soon, and your crush won’t seem alluring to you forever. You’re not alone in your emotions. Almost everyone has experienced the pain of moving on from a crush, and they’ve all lived to tell the story. You will too!

Focus on substance-free coping mechanisms.
Alcohol and Drugs will make you feel blue for longer.
 If you explore yourself binge drinking or doing recreational drugs frequently, you may require to reevaluate how you process your emotions. Reach out to family, friends, or a substance use professional if you feel your coping mechanisms have gotten out of control.

See a therapist if your emotions are unmanageable. 
Sometimes your crush does leave you feeling depressed and devastated.
 It’s okay to feel low for weeks or days, but it’s time to speak to a professional if you can’t work through it on your own and your normal support systems are not working. Signs it probably is time to see a therapist or a counselor might be: Society and people feel depressed or blue for all or most of the week, most days of the month. 

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Karma
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