When you don’t want to wake up forever, that’s really sad and that’s really bad as well
The person in whom this invisible agony reaches a certain unendurable level, the thoughts of finishing oneself occur. But the thing to remember is that in the end, one needs more courage to live than to kill oneself. Sometimes the feelings are so lethal that the one becomes so much torn out that he is ready either to kill himself or all the ones around him. It seems that everyone around you might care for you but that care is not just enough. No one commits suicide because they want to die, they actually want to stop the pain. Sometimes all this hell can be overcome by reading motivational quotes, penning your feelings, connecting with nature, engulfing yourself in art, or having a shoulder to cry your heart out.
When someone dies after a long physical illness, the society doesn’t miss to say with a note of approval “He fought so hard”
Whereas in case of suicide they think that no fight was involved, they merely think that the person couldn’t take it and be weak. They forget all the mental struggles the person faces because they are invisible and sometimes even unspoken and unexposed to anyone. This attitude of society is SO WRONG.
Suicide is the act of intentionally causing one’s death. Suicide may have some warning signs to the closed ones or it may be a shock for all. Sometimes the reasons for suicide could be childhood abuse, recent traumatic events, lack of support network, availability of gun, hostile social or school environment, or exposure to other teen suicides. If someone around you talks about wanting to die or kill oneself, he or she probably may do it. If someone talks about feeling entrapped or being in unbearable pain, you should find a way to help. Withdrawl from all social activities and a feeling of isolation is also not a good sign. Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs and displaying extreme mood swings is also not good. If someone has done an unsuccessful suicide attempt or has a family history of suicide may also be at risk.
Even exposure to others who have died by suicide in real life or via the media and internet could aggravate the suicidal thoughts of any individual. Some protective measures could be taken for the people who have been reportedly found with the threats of suicidal thoughts by supporting them through medical or mental care relationships. They must be counseled to be skilled in problem-solving, conflict resolution, and handling problems in a non-violent way. They must be taught cultural and religious beliefs that discourage suicide and support self-preservation.
The WHO estimates that approximately 1 million people die each year from suicide. A suicidal person cannot see any other way of finding relief except through death. Even a severely depressed person has mixed feelings about death, fluctuating between wanting to live and wanting to die. They want to end their pain and not live so they are all the more confused.
Many people who die by suicide try to get help before attempting suicide. But when they fail at it also then they strengthen their idea of finishing their lives. If someone talks to you about it, you can play a role in suicide prevention by pointing out the alternatives and show that you care. So, make it a point in your mind that you take any suicidal talk or behavior seriously. It’s not just a warning sign about what the person is thinking rather it’s a CRY FOR HELP.
You always need to remember some points talking to a person who needs help on this sensitive issue. Be yourself and let the person know you care. Let them know, you accept them and they are not alone. Finding the right words matter along with the right concern and care so be pretty more careful. Let your friend or loved one vent and unload their feelings. No matter how negative the conversation seems, the positivity lies in the conversation itself. Be sympathetic and nonjudgemental. Offer hope and reassurance.
Avoid arguing with a suicidal person. Don’t lecture them too much. Promise them full confidentiality. Offer ways to fix the problems if you can. Encourage positive lifestyle changes like getting out in the sun or nature for at least 30 minutes a day. Plenty of sleep and exercise are also important.
Giving a call on any Suicide helpline number is always a good idea. We all need to remember that this COVID-19 crisis is affecting everyone and an increase in the calls received on Suicide prevention helpline is witnessed amid lockdown. The mental health is at stake along with the economies of the countries. Do take good care of yourself and your loved ones.